As a family we now don’t look at next year or next month; we just say thank you each and every day. To go out for a walk, with my husband at my side, I now consider a gift. Since that awful Sunday morning in Febuary our lives have been quite different.
Nigel is recovering so well from his heart attack, that if you walked in the only thing that is different is he looks better than before! His face is a nice rosy colour, instead of a grey and slightly draining look, he’s lost some weight, which is a good thing, and he has grown a beard; which suits him greatly and I love.
It has taken several harsh words shared, to get Nigel to the point where he can now look at life and see how lucky he is and what he has gained; instead of lost. It is, and must be, very hard to suffer like he did, and not feel the extreme shock and loss about a life he feels he once had. I’ve asked him to see life again; in a different light. It will take time, as recovery is not just a physical thing! I know all to well how easy it is to see someone looking so ‘fit and well’ that often you do not see the ‘disabilities or recovery’ below the surface.
Growing up with my disabilities/ illness has made me stronger, and appear harden to the world of ‘discomfort and surgery’. This maybe because I’ve had to undergo many procedures and been asked to endure the effects of surgery all too often. To aid me in my life I’ve always focused upon my reason to live and fight. This has always been my husband and daughter, and the love I hold in my heart for friends and family. For me, I feel growing up with my disabilities has made me fight harder, want and push more. At times this attitude has proven to aid my recovery and allow me to adapt quickly to the changes that my illness and disabilities inflict upon me. There are other times it has hindered me, by aiding my ability to block out my discomfort this can often end up causing greater suffering in the long term.
Seeing Nigel ‘acquire’ his reason to look after his health more wisely, has made me see how hard it is for people that grow up healthy to suddenly suffer an illness, and lose something they once had, or are asked to changed their life style. It is often hard to see the changes that will allow them to live longer, fully better and more healthy life.
It takes time to let go of the small habits that can manifesto into our ‘bad eating patterns or unhealthy fitness’. To see a ‘new life style’ that gives us a better eating habits and more fitness is often too hard to contemplate. So we don’t try, or postpone the thought until tomorrow- or next week! Maybe this is because our lives are ‘so busy’ as we are rushing around, so to make that change seems impossible to fit in or adapt to!
Looking at how Nigel has progress along his recovery, I can see that without positive energy and love, I feel, it would have been much hard for him to make those changes to his eating habits and life style alone. He needed much love and support to see his new lifestyle changes will actually allow him to live a much better life, with the ones he loves, for longer! Nigel is learning how best to eat and exercise, so it can fit into his life without much extra time needed. He is learning to identify new foods that will allow him more energy and support his body in his recovery.
To actually learn that new habits do not need much extra time or change, takes strong positive thoughts. Simple steps to ensure the right foods ends up on our plate is not hard to do . Nigel has been lucky, as I’ve always had to eat healthily therefore eating healthy foods is not such a huge change. However, Nigel will have to plan ahead and think about what he eats when he goes out with friends and get up earlier to allow time for his body to adjust and more importantly eat something before he leaves the house.
When I endure surgery, or a setback, it is easy for me to adapt and most importantly identify what is needed and make those changes quickly. Maybe this is because as I have always had my ‘reason to live’ firmly embedded within me right from birth. While Nigel found life easier and therefore didn’t need to consider how ‘life is a gift’ that needs attention and constant care to flourish and reach its full potential.
Although I would never want anyone to endure an illness or ill health it is only in these times do we seem to consider what is best for ourselves and how we can ‘get better’. Our bodies are not everlasting machines that will endure years and years without care and change. Yet, at times, we expect them to.
So, my blog today is a request to see if you can avoid, what we as a family endured recently, and help your body run for more years more smoothly. Do not wait for the warning! Nigel was a very lucky man, in turn I have my husband at my side again and Olivia has her Dad to enjoy ‘time’- A gift we took for granted; and are forever grateful to our wonderful NHS service, care and love for returning him to us.
Thank you to everyone who is supporting us at this time.